If y’all are wondering where I’ve been, I’ll tell you that I have been extremely busy with one of my best friend’s weddings. :) She and her husband had their wedding August 17, and I was the maid of honor. :) I just wanted to write a little something for the two of them, so here we go.
August 17 marked exactly 18 months since the day I came home from the hospital, last year and it’s also when my new life began all on my own, outside of the confines of hospital walls with skilled neurosurgeons, nurses, therapists and staff there to keep me safe. This girl literally held my hand, and she was the first person to speak up to a neurosurgeon in Dallas about the headache I had while they were trying to determine the cause of my brain bleed. She told him “she’s had a headache for 3 days” and that’s when he said “oh, that changes everything.” The necessary steps were taken, next, to find the aneurysm that was slowly (but rapidly) taking my life away from me.
I know that Rachel and I have been best friends for the past 13-14 years, but you don’t ever think of your best friend having to say or do something that could literally save your life. You don’t look at your best friend and think “gee, someday he/she may be holding my hand while I’m in a medically induced coma because my brain is bleeding, and swelling, and I’m slowly dying.” You don’t think that, but that’s what happened.
Rachel,
Thank you so much for dropping everything to be at my side on that cold February night. I have zero recollection of that event (or any events for a good 9 days), but I have photographic proof that you were right there by my side. Thank you for your prayers, your friendship, and being the first person to visit me when I came home on February 17, 2012. :) I love you! I know I wasn’t feeling awesome, I didn’t even really seem like “me,” but you stuck by me through all of that, and I appreciate it. Thanks for all of the good times, the laughter, and as things slowly got “back to normal,” we just kind of picked up where we left off.
I’ll miss times like these:
So many memories, and these are a very small portion of the pictures we have taken over the years. That’s okay, though, can’t put them all on here. That would probably take a year or so. Moving onward… While I will always miss and cherish those times,
I am glad I got to be a part of times like these:
^This is the recipe for those devilish delicious cupcakes: http://centercutcook.com/better-than-sex-cupcakes/
You’re welcome, and I’m sorry in advance for any weight you may gain. :) Also, thank you and shout out to my ultra talented sister, Kayla, for making the homemade icing from scratch. That made the cupcakes even better!
All of that was fun (and delicious), but it doesn’t compare to being able to stand next to your best friend on her wedding day, when, had anything gone differently 18 months and 12 days earlier, you may not have been present at all.
I was thrilled to be present for memories like these:
But nothing compares to being alive to be a part of memories like these:
After being serenaded by Ben (the brother of the bride), I can honestly say I will never hear this song the same, ever again hahaha.
I really, really, really wish the videographer could have recorded my reaction. Amanda, Whitney and I were standing on the side of the dance floor cracking up at Ben’s serenade. It was priceless.
Now, to get serious, I have a few things to “say” to you, Rachel and Marcus. I could have said all of this during my toast at the reception, but y’all should know that I’m really not going to stand up in front of all of those people and say this much. Haha it’s easier through writing. :)
First of all, always remember to love one another from a standpoint of selflessness, because that’s what love really is. Love is not an emotion, it’s a choice, and it’s a choice that each of you will have to make everyday, whether you “feel like it” or not. I love you both. Remember this, and practice it daily in your interactions with each other:
Marcus, if you really ever have to apologize to her, you could always just buy her one of these!
Hahahaha, I’m kidding.
Seriously, though, just like I said in my toast, “you passed the test.” I have liked you since the afternoon we sat down together in Starbucks to have the “what are your intentions” talk. I liked your gentleness, but bold sense of honesty. You have a calm presence, but one that also means business. I like that about you. I like that you see beneath the surface, and that you have a strong spirit. I love that you are both silly, but deeply loving and caring. I think that you make a great match for my best friend, and I can’t wait to watch your love with her progress over the years.
Thank you for including me in the fun of engagement planning, ring shopping, and making me keep that secret from her. I loved it!! Thank you for the times you’ve reached out to me, offered an encouraging word, and have just been real with me. I appreciate that more than I can even write or say. But most of all, Marcus, Thank you for being a real man in today’s world of imitations and lowered standards. It shows, you know.
To you both, Apologizing in sincerity, though is something that will serve you two well. Say it with words, show it through action and do the work it takes to make your marriage last. I believe you both want to have that “happily ever after,” but it takes effort. Give it all you’ve got. Love each other well, and respect each other as well. :)
Also, do your marriage with a party of three, in the shape of a triangle. God is at the top, and you two are at the bottom corners. The closer you two get to Him, individually, the closer the two of you become to one another. Remember that the purpose of marriage is to glorify God and is to be a picture of how Christ loves the Church. :) Show each other love and respect, and safeguard your marriage by working through your issues together. Remember that it’s okay to seek help when/if you need an objective opinion, and always pray through everything.
I love you both, I’m glad that I was able to take part in your special day, and I wish you (and pray for) both many years of happiness and fun, even through the difficulties. Keep your eyes on Him. I know we are separated by hours and miles, but we can visit one another and still maintain a solid friendship. That’s what I’m here for, ya know! :) I know that although I could choose to see it as I’m “losing” Rachel, I am actually gaining an incredible friend and brother in Marcus. :)
I wanted to wait to post this until after y’all came back from your honeymoon, and I hope Costa Rica was full of rest and adventure. I know we were all resting most of this week. Weddings take a lot out of you, but it was well worth it! Once again, I love you both!!!
-Robin
(Robinella or MoRo) :)